So Zan. You know, Zan, right? (HEY! Who said “No”? She just had her interview posted this morning! I’m going to need you to keep up, people….)
Anyway. Zan. Zantaran. Zantanna. Zanadu. Zantarini. (I could do this all day.)
Our lovely Zan is getting married and I thought it would be lovely for everyone out there reading this to give her some well-wishes. Because she is in the home stretch and could use some love. (Her ketubah was thrown under a train by ghosts! UNDER. A. TRAIN.)
For some of you that have been there, this is an exciting time, the few days before you’re married where all this crap that you’ve been putting together will finally be used and family is coming in and that’s crazy fun/stressful and all you can do is keep thinking, “I can’t wait” and “Lord, please don’t let me fall….” and it’s SOOO exciting because you know, “YAY, MARRIED!!” and it’s SOOO frustrating because if (s)he does that thing they keep doing ONE MORE TIME, you will set them on fire and cancel THIS WHOLE DAMN DEAL, I SWEAR TO GOD!!!
Wait. Maybe that last part was just me.
Anyway, Zan needs some nice words of wisdom as she rounds third and heads for home. So give her some in the comments. Funny, sweet, trite, deep, thoughtful, dumb, WHATEVER. Even if you’ve never commented, even if you don’t want to comment EVAR thankyouverymuch, I’m telling you to do it right now. Just say something nice to the lady and give her some warm and fuzzies as she prepares to be a married lady, which in some ways isn’t that much different than a not-married lady but in some ways it SO IS.
And here’s my contribution. I had a silly picture picked out instead and then I heard this when I was getting ready this morning and thought, “AWWW!” (And yes, I might have been naked while I heard this, but that isn’t relevant.)
So this is my song for Zan and the Cowboy. The original was by a guy and featured in Juno, but I like this one better.
Now it’s your turn. Say something nice.
Annnnd…..GO!
Kind of a Mess 
Nothing very very good, or very very bad, lasts forever. Enjoy the moments!
G’luck, Zan, with all the last minute stuff. You’ll do great! I love hearing your (and Alyssa’s too) stories about life – keep turning ridiculous moments (under a TRAIN?! he left his damn PLATE on the floor again?!) into bloggy-comedic gold!
Just remember that for every mean-spirited ghost, there is a train conductor out there to save your ketubah. Or girlfriends to rescue you from drowning in diy quicksand. Or internet strangers to send good thoughts and zen your way. And a Cowboy waiting to take your hand and walk on into the rest of your lives together. Happy wedding!
Oh, and Alyssa? thanks for that song. It made me say, “awwwwww” too. But I’m wearing all my clothes right now.
YAY ZAN!!
I’m stealing my words of wisdom from the vintage wedding this week (or was it last week? I can’t keep track): resolve to be content. I like it because it’s similar in spirit to my own grad post message, which was all about the power of positive thinking. having met you and spent a whole 2 hours with you in my home, I’m pretty much an expert on how awesome you are in real life and I know you’ll have an amazing time at your wedding. you’ve had some special ghosts after you lately, but you eat ghosts for BREAKFAST. RAH!
have a most glorious weekend, zan-a-rama-ding-dong.
Yay, Zan! Just remember that TBCB has got your back and is cheering you on!
haven’t been through a wedding myself yet so i don’t have any from experience wisdom or advice…but i know you will be able to handle everything that comes your way with intelligence, humor, and heart. absolute best wishes!
Things won’t go as planned, but it will still be great in the end. Be proud of your hard work and enjoy partying with the people who love you! Congratulations, Zan.
I’m so happy for you Zan and glad I found you on these great old interwebz. Crafting is so much more fun when I can skype with you! I’ll be thinking wonderful thoughts for you all weekend darling! Congratulations!
I have no words of wisdom, except TBCB! You’ve got this, lady! You’re almost there. I can’t wait to hang out and hear all about it!
(And Alyssa, “it’s SOOO frustrating because if (s)he does that thing they keep doing ONE MORE TIME, you will set them on fire and cancel THIS WHOLE DAMN DEAL, I SWEAR TO GOD!!!” was not just you, I’m already doing this and I have 3 months to go. Is that a bad sign?)
HORRAY ZAN!! Just 2 more days, lady, and you’ll NEVER HAVE TO DO THIS AGAIN! You’ll just be able to enjoy being with your cowboy WITHOUT having to plan a wedding. =)
Oh, and just say the word and we’ll all come banish those ghosts.
::HUGE happy dance in your honor::
CONGRATULATIONS, LOVE!
YAY for ZAN!
Yeah Zan! I have no relationship wisdom. But you have cool Liz Lemon glasses so I am wishing you the best. Loved your interview 🙂
All my wonderful advice has been seen at APW one way or another, especially since I’m an engaged woman, not a married one.
Instead, I will give you all the blessings of love, wonder, joy, and excitement that you can hold, and just enough sorrow to make the joy seem sweeter. (And the ghosts may have already taken care of that.)
May you have a wonderful celebration that leaves you crying huge tears of joy.
Umm advice for actual wedding…
Remember brides are never late, because the wedding can’t happen without you.
Remember to breath.
Remember to eat something during the reception (I had someone strategically placed with a plate of food prepared to shove it in my mouth when I took a breath while talking to the millionth well wisher, as well as I have been the feeder for at least three of my girlfriends as they got married)
Remember you are supposed to be enjoying this and if it gets far too stressful might I suggest a round of the Baby Shark song, because nothing can be taken to seriously when you are in a giant dress trying to sing that song with your bridesmaids/guys.
Otherwise all the best.
May you have more joy that sorrow, more laughter than tears, and may you want to dance more than you want to strangle the life out of each other. Ain’t nothing in this world that is easy, marriage is no exception, but it is so worth every moment of it when you are with the right person.
Best wishes to my fellow -saurus! Enjoy the heck outta that day!
Let go. At a certain point, whatever will happen, will happen, and you can’t control it, you just have to roll with it. Let yourself roll with it, so you can enjoy and be present. Fortunately, I had done enough event planning (mostly HOBY</a) at that point to know this already. 🙂
LOVE YOU, ZAN! 🙂 🙂
Yay Zan!! I can’t wait to read about and see pictures from your day – I just know it’ll be amazing. If your experience is anything like mine, it’ll feel like time is set to warp speed and is just flying by, but try to take at least 5 minutes to stop where you are. Look around. Soak it up – the good, the bad, the hugs and tears and celebration.
And one of my fav. wedding quotes:
“There were to be no ceremonious performances, everything was to be as natural and homelike as possible, so when Aunt March arrived, she was scandalized to see the bride come running to welcome and lead her in, to find the bridegroom fastening up a garland that had fallen down, and to catch a glimpse of the paternal minister marching upstairs with a grave countenance and a wine bottle under each arm. “Upon my word, here’s a state of things!” cried the old lady,
taking the seat of honor prepared for her, and settling the folds of her lavender moire with a great rustle. “You oughtn’t to be seen till the last minute, child.” “I’m not a show, Aunty, and no one is coming to stare at me, to criticize my dress, or count the cost of my luncheon. I’m too happy to care what anyone says or thinks, and I’m going to have my little wedding just as I like it.”
…
“That is the prettiest wedding I’ve been to for an age, Ned, and I don’t see why, for there wasn’t a bit of style about it,” observed Mrs. Moffat to her husband, as they drove away.
…
They stood watching her, with faces full of love and hope and tender pride as she walked away, leaning on her husband’s arm, with her hands full of flowers and the June sunshine brightening her happy face–
and so … married life began.
{ Little Women }
Hooray Zan!!! 🙂
i also have no advice, but i have well wishing.
as they say in Ireland “may all your joy be pure joy, and all your pain champagne”
Mxox
Ohhh -Zan I am a bit late, but was actually thinking of you this weekend, and keep checking your blog for updates. I wish , and am sure, you had a lovely , floaty day with your cowboy, cows, and of course alll your family. Hope you were surrounded by the love and the joy and may all of that stay with you.
Amanda (mexican in Holland)