A Valentine’s Day Story

In honor of Valentine’s Day, I offer up a story for y’all.

A cautionary tale, if you will, on the dangers of…lingerie.

In lieu of a regular bridal shower, my sister-in-law and friends threw me a lingerie shower.  Which I thought brilliant because I love parties, booze and fancy underwear.  A win all the way around.

An interesting sidenote about lingerie showers?  It’s totally a secret view into your friends’ sex lives.  It’s not completely accurate, but let’s just say that I wasn’t surprised who got me the classy ivory peignoir and who got me the black and red lace maid’s apron.

Plus, it makes for a new favorite game: put on one of your gifts, get your husband to admit he thinks it’s sexy and then tell him his sister bought it for you.  NEVER STOPS BEING FUNNY.

I had an absolute blast, but one of the funniest parts of the night was opening my present from my friend J.  She had just gotten back from New York and was excited to give me her gift that she’d bought there.  I examined the bag, getting excited because it was covered in superheroes and I’m a comic book dork. But, upon closer inspection, I discovered that said superheroes were not of the DC or Marvel variety but of a yet unknown universe — populated entirely by gay men if their hands placement was an indicator.  Dirty.  Now, my soon to be mother-in-law and aunt-in-law were there with us, completely supportive of seeing their son/nephew’s wife’s underwear and having a great time too, but I think we all died a little when I pulled out J’s gift.

Lilac chiffon and lace babydoll teddy with matching panties.

Lilac chiffon and lace OPEN BUST babydoll teddy with matching CROTCHLESS panties.

Now, for those of you unaware, an open bust teddy is a teddy with the boobs cut out.

I’m not explaining crotchless panties.

This lovely gift was paired with a pair of edible underwear.  Not scandalous among friends, but slightly mortifying among future in-law’s.  They laughed along with the rest of us and took it all in stride, proving once again that my in-law’s are awesome.  (Be jealous. It’s okay.)

Now, fast-forward to after the wedding and honeymoon.  Jethro goes out of town fairly regularly, so I was alone at home on a Saturday night.  Well, I had my old buddy Pinot Grigio there, whose fault is what happened next.  Somehow, it occurred to me that I hadn’t tried on some of my gifts from my shower.  And what better time than when Jethro is gone?  If they looked horrible, I wouldn’t have to endure him trying to make up ways to describe how he felt without lying or making me cry!

So, as I dug through my closet, I found J’s gift.  And then I thought the words that have damned many a man before me: “Eh, why not?”

Here’s the thing.  This gift was labelled as O/S from Shirley of Hollywood.  So that meant that Shirley was “One Size Fits All.”  I find this to be a misnomer.  “O/S” tends to mean, “One Size Fit The One Model We Based It On.”  Or “One Size Would Have Fit You If You Stopped Eating So Much Candy, Fatty.”  So I knew going in, Shirley and I probably wouldn’t get along.  But Grigio was right there, spurring me on, so I charged ahead.

The crotchless panties came first.  Those things are more difficult to manage than you think; there’s about six different ways that you can put them on, and only one of them is the correct and not painful way.  Also, the elastic was a little less than forgiving.  So I stood there in the bathroom, in front our our giant eight- foot mirror, attempting to figure out which was the leg hole and which was the part designed to frame my lady bidness. I felt like a kid with head trauma trying to do algebra.  But finally, I figured it out and pulled them on.

It was not pretty.

Not just because they were crotchless and therefore not pretty on anyone, but the O/S turned out to be the lie I thought it would be; the waistband cutting into my hips so deeply that if I turned a certain way it seemed like the lace disappeared.  My self-esteem began to plummet. And yet, I soldiered on.

The teddy was labelled O/S also, but since I’m built like a tan, chubby Jessica Rabbit, my upper half often fit in sizes my bottom didn’t.  The teddy had underwire but was made to pull on over your head, so I did just that.

It was slightly painful but I yanked, jiggled and pulled my way (and my boobies) into Shirley.  Then I faced the mirror.

BAD idea.  It was…it was bad.  I looked like a puffy 80’s porn star.  I started to tear up, but stopped myself.  Body issues do not extend to joke underwear that will never get worn anyway.  Save that sh*t for bathing suit season.  So I tried to take Shirley off.

Have y’all ever been in the dressing room and you put something on over your head, and you realize about halfway through that it’s a bad idea?  Your brain tells you it might be too small, but for whatever reason, your ego goes, “Nah, I got this.”  And your brain says, “Seriously.”  And your ego replies, “But….it’s my size.”  And your brain is like, “Moron. It’s not going to fit.”  And your ego says, “BUT IT’S MY SIZE.”  And then you brain is like, “Whatever.”  And you get it on, but when it’s time to take it off, you get stuck.  So you’re all  “HALP!” and your brain goes blank because it’s like, “Eff off, I told you so,” and so you’re stuck in the dressing room and you realize that you’re going to have to have someone help you take it off or die in there, alone, stuck in an outfit you didn’t like that much anyway?

Yeah.  Apparently O/S stands for “Oh Sh*t.”

Somehow, I’d managed to get the teddy yanked up above my chest, with one arm pinned to my side and the other pointing almost straight up in the air.  I looked like the Statue of Liberty, except clad in purple lace and shame.

And I’m standing there thinking, “Oh God.  Who can I call?  I can’t get out.  WHO CAN I CALL?!?” All my go-to buddies whom I used to contact for 2am sob-fests or emergency DD’s were all out of town.  Can you really call someone to drive six hours to help pull you out of scandalous drawers??

Even if Jethro had been closer, he would have been out of the question.  He  may be my husband, but there was no way I wanted our grandchildren to hear about the time Poppa had to pull Maw-Maw out of her tawdry underwear.

Then I spotted my salvation – a pair of scissors sitting on the counter.  The only problem was how to get them.  All the while, the crotchless panties are scratching me in parts that don’t need to be scratched and cutting off my circulation.  So I waddle closer and then bend over about two feet from the edge of the counter so I could try to reach them with the arm stuck up in the air like an know-it-all student trying to get the teacher’s attention.  Hermione Granger in horrible lingerie. (I’m sure there’s fanfic somewhere with this very image…)

So there I am, being attacked by Shirley the Porn Lingerie, and holding a pair of scissors in my raised arm – with no way to reach the offending fabric that needed to be cut.  Just as I’m about to start freaking out, my right arm starts to worm its way free from its stuck position against my torso.  I tried not to rejoice prematurely lest I anger Shirley and cause her to constrict even tighter, like a slutty, lacy Technicolor anaconda. But I slowly yanked my arm free and was able to pull the rest of the teddy off.  And the panties.  And then throw them across the room in a wadded up pile, just to show them who’s boss.

I then went to bed, clearly too stupid to be awake and alone with idle time on my hands.

I did put Shirley in the closet and shut the door, however.  I didn’t want her to come after me in the middle of the night and strangle me.

So, my lovelies, when you’re perusing your local lingerie store and looking for something nice for your sweetie, just remember my tale of woe.

And beware of lilac lace lurking on the rack.

Happy Valentine’s Day, y’all!

51 comments on “A Valentine’s Day Story

  1. Caitlin
    February 14, 2011 at 9:44 am #

    Possibly the most hilarious part of this is that you considered how the story would sound to your future grandchildren… although i was cracking up the WHOLE time.

    Happy Valentine’s Day– don’t celebrate with lilac lace!

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 12:56 pm #

      I spend a lot of my time going, “I will be a mom someday. Will this embarrass my children?”
      Too bad I didn’t think like that in college…

  2. Jenny- Adventures Along the Way
    February 14, 2011 at 9:49 am #

    This cracked me up. As in, I laughed through the whole thing. Loved it. 🙂

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 12:57 pm #

      Thanks! If my pain give pleasure, it’s so worth it. 🙂

  3. ddayporter
    February 14, 2011 at 10:04 am #

    BAHAHAHA. oh man. I just choked on my goldfish (snack cracker, not aquarium life).

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 12:58 pm #

      NO! I hope I didn’t make you waste such a tasty snack…

      Do you sometimes make them talk to each other? I can’t be the only one who does this…

      • Sarah
        February 14, 2011 at 2:48 pm #

        You’re not. ::winks:: Gummy bears, too. ::nods::

        • Jo
          February 14, 2011 at 2:51 pm #

          Haha, I do this all of the time. As in two days ago I was splitting a muffin with someone and when it was cut in half I realized that it was a perfect Muppet mouth, picked it up, and began commentary.

          Iiiin front of my boss.

  4. Trisha
    February 14, 2011 at 10:22 am #

    This made me laugh loud enough at my desk that OwnerMan actually looked over at me.

    Also, the dressing room “Oh crap, I’m stuck” has totally happened to me. More than once. You’d think I’d learn the first time. Yeah, that would be your mistake. I will probably never learn.

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 12:59 pm #

      Don’t get fired!

      Lauren is the inspiration for this post, we actually discussed that dressing room thing. You are SO not alone.

  5. Sarah
    February 14, 2011 at 10:26 am #

    Having been the trying-not-to-laugh friend who cut the sobbing girl out of a too-tight outfit …

    I haven’t laughed this hard in a LONG time. I’m allowed to say this because I love you.

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 1:00 pm #

      The feeling is mutual, darlin’.

      And thank you for being that friend. Your service is sorely needed.

  6. Kristy
    February 14, 2011 at 10:41 am #

    Alyssa, you are too much. I’m shaking at my desk, I’m laughing so hard. Oh, how I ❤ you and your tawdry underwear.

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 1:09 pm #

      SERIOUSLY tawdry. (Plus, I love that word. It’s such a Julia Sugarbaker word…)

  7. lizzie
    February 14, 2011 at 11:25 am #

    HILARIOUS. the misadventures with lingerie, indeed.

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 1:05 pm #

      Most of my adventures end up being misadventures, unfortunately. 🙂

  8. kahlia
    February 14, 2011 at 12:04 pm #

    I really appreciate that you’re willing to entertain us with tales of how not-so-graceful you are… it makes the rest of us Messy Girls who have done the exact same things (more than once…) feel so much better about it! ❤

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 1:04 pm #

      There is strength in numbers, as well as comfort.
      Plus, I gave up years ago on trying to be cool, I might as well admit my goober nature. 🙂

  9. Jo
    February 14, 2011 at 12:21 pm #

    Oh you’re killing me.

    And this is exactly why I vetoed the shower!

    I always panic when stuck, knowing that I’ll die with this sports bra tangled in my arm and compressing my chest, slowly squeezing tighter and tighter like a boa.

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 1:02 pm #

      The shower was totally worth the eventual lingerie debacle!
      But I was a little nervous about taking that picture for the post, I didn’t want to awaken the beast and get entangled again…

  10. Chantelle
    February 14, 2011 at 12:22 pm #

    LMAO, this is bad, especially at work, where I’m having difficulty turning my guffaws into coughs. Thanks for the belly laugh Alyssa!

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 1:03 pm #

      You’re very welcome!
      And maybe they’ll think you’re sick and send you home!

  11. Ms. Bunny
    February 14, 2011 at 1:26 pm #

    OMG, that was probably the funniest post I have read in awhile. Thank you so much for making my day.

  12. Colleen
    February 14, 2011 at 1:33 pm #

    I swear, one of these days I will learn to read your blog when I *don’t* have a sleeping baby on my lap! You’re too funny (and ohmygod have I been there! Well, not there exactly, but trapped in dressing room clothes? Check-check.)

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 10:56 pm #

      EEEEE! Sleeping babies…don’t bring them up, the mere mention of such a lovely thing makes my ovaries go all explodey.

  13. CarMar
    February 14, 2011 at 1:44 pm #

    I. am. dying. Too funny!

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 10:57 pm #

      No dying! I can’t afford to lose a reader….

  14. Morgan
    February 14, 2011 at 3:37 pm #

    I got stuck in a sports bra just the other day. I thought that was bad! Didn’t help that David wouldn’t help because he was too busy laughing at me. This however, was awesome.

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 10:59 pm #

      Gah, sports bras are the worst. They get all wrapped up and twisted and GAH. Horrible things.

  15. Christina
    February 14, 2011 at 4:43 pm #

    This is exactly why I was scared of having people buy me lingerie for the bachelorette party and eventually decided against it: “Plus, it makes for a new favorite game: put on one of your gifts, get your husband to admit he thinks it’s sexy and then tell him his sister bought it for you. NEVER STOPS BEING FUNNY.” But of course you made it sound hilariously awesome. Dang it, I wasted my opportunity!

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 11:03 pm #

      Honestly, my lingerie shower was amazing. I got some really gorgeous things and it was SO fun. You should do a lingerie birthday party!
      But seriously. NEVER NOT FUNNY.

  16. Christy
    February 14, 2011 at 6:44 pm #

    I totally just read this entire thing out loud to my husband. You’re becoming a regular “read it outl oud” thing in our household. 🙂 We laughed. a LOT. Then James said, “Does she have a picture of the underwear?” haha… “why yes, sweetie, she does.” haha 🙂

    • kindofamess
      February 14, 2011 at 11:13 pm #

      YAY! That makes me really happy, I’m read aloud!

      But you have to do it with a Texas accent. Slight one for me, Matthew McConaughey without the smarminess for Jethro…

  17. Nikki
    February 15, 2011 at 11:34 am #

    Just came over from Better in Real Life and THANK GOD this was the first kindofamess post I read. This is probably my favorite blog post ever.

  18. Richelle
    February 25, 2011 at 10:59 pm #

    Alyssa, you are a GENIUS! I’ve just discovered your fabulous blog today after Meg’s shout out, and this entry just killed me – hysterical! I love that you can laugh at yourself, and believe me, we have ALL been there in the outfit we never should have forced on. Can’t wait to see what you write how. Thanks for making me feel like I’m not the only one who doesn’t have her shit together, and it’s totally fine. 🙂

  19. Donna
    February 26, 2011 at 2:58 am #

    I have tears streaming down my face cos I laughed so hard at this post. I think I love you.

    Now off to go read the rest of your posts 🙂

  20. camille
    February 27, 2011 at 2:09 am #

    Ditto the streaming tears. I’m happy I found your blog (thanks to APW). Maybe O/S stands for Zero/Small!?

  21. Meg
    February 27, 2011 at 5:39 pm #

    I have never laughed so hard as when you compared yourself to Hermione Granger. No, my husband and I didn’t get married on 7/31 because it’s Harry Potter’s birthday…or did we?

  22. Angela
    February 28, 2011 at 3:28 pm #

    Crying right now. I’m going to make my boyfriend read this so he knows why t-shirts and boxers to bed will always be sexier than re-donk-ulous lingerie.

  23. Chantal Mullens
    April 29, 2011 at 12:18 pm #

    This is the funniest thing I have EVER read. EVER. And not just because this has happened to me. Not with the boob-baring purple sex maker, but in the public privacy of a dressing room. This is the funniest thing, because you made me feel like I was there in the room with you. Not helping the cause, of course, just enjoying the show. Thank you for this.

  24. excellentastrophe
    October 6, 2012 at 8:17 pm #

    Ok I am late to the game and currently reading this awesome blog front to back but I had to be the weirdo that commented on a super old post because this. was. hilarious!! I had to pause to wipe tears away so that I could see to continue!! Having been stuck in clothes that shouldfit-aresupposedtofit-ohdeargodwhydontthesefit I was right there with you the entire post!!

    P.s. the word HALP!! makes me giggle in any instance!

  25. Mishka
    April 5, 2013 at 11:16 am #

    This is EASILY the funniest thing I’ve read all year…and most of last. Can you just come to my house, drink wine, and regale me with your tales of ninja undergarments and the like????

    • kindofamess
      April 5, 2013 at 3:28 pm #

      YES. I won’t even ask if we can paint our nails.

      That’s a lie. I’ll totally ask if we can paint our nails.

      • acciolacquer
        April 5, 2013 at 3:54 pm #

        Pah-SHA! As if I was going to give you time to ask before shoving a bottle in your hands!

  26. Chef Mary
    December 15, 2016 at 7:08 pm #

    too funny “I’m not explaining crotchless panties.” – yes, please explain. enjoy reading your blog. thanks!


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