Something I hate about blog rolls is that you never know why they are there. What’s the site about? Are they just friends, or is it like Facebook and you add someone just you were added to theirs? Do the bloggers owe the blog rollers’ money? So I plan to try to share the whys of my blog roll with Link Love every week. Till I run out of blogs that I’ve added. Or get bored with it. One of the two.
But then I realized something. With the exception of my mom, pretty much all my readers are FROM APW.
Okay, how many of you don’t know what WIC, shame blasting or The Kn*t are?
Show of hands?
Yup. My mom, my sister-in-law and Jessica. (Hey, y’all!)
On the off-chance that some of you have appeared from other venues, A Practical Wedding could be termed as a blog about having a practical wedding, but it’s more than that. It’s about women, then relationships and then weddings. It’s about marriage and serious relationships and what that means to us ladies. Is changing your name a big deal? (YES.) How do you reconcile “wife” with who you are as a person? What’s the damn deal with chair covers and do I need them? (NO.)
I write “Ask Team Practical” where people write in and ask questions about life issues, logistics issues, societal issues and family issues. (OH, the FAMILY issues. They’re heartbreaking.) But the best part about my column is I write it, give my opinion (within the framework of APW’s core beliefs. Meg says I’m not allowed to just say “EFF THE BASTARDS!!!” I have to be helpful too. See, I earn my paycheck.) and then sit back. Because it’s after the column is published that the magic really happens. Out of Meg’s 44,000 readers, those who have experienced the same problem or issue choose to speak up and offer help. There’s lots of “Me too!” comments, but most of them are of the “I feel ya. Here’s how we did it.” variety. Or, “I don’t know how to help you, but I sympathize and hope it gets better.” Or, “You are AWESOME and I just needed to tell you that.”
The amazing environment at APW is practically troll-free, which is pretty much unheard of. But Meg (and to a lessor extent, Lauren and I) rules with a iron-first clad in a kid glove; you respect the reader contributions and you respect each other. End of story. Which some people love, and some hate. But when you own the sandbox, you can smack people for kicking over other kids’ castles.
I can’t remember how I found APW, but what kept me after I was married was the incredible conversations that continued to happen. Talk about miscarriage, divorce, death, expectations, aspirations and just life in general. So why am I posting about something that y’all all know about? Because I want to know how APW has affected you.* What are your favorite posts? What are the ones that come to mind when you think of APW? What about the APW book club? Tell me about the friends you’ve made through APW, on and offline.
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*And yes, Meg reads my blog AND I plan on sharing what y’all say in the comments with her anyway. Everyone needs an ego boost.